5 Tips to Spark Romance while Parenting
We all know that once you become a parent, the spark quickly fades. This spark doesn't instantly fade... oh no, it is much more of a slow burn and if you let it burn far too much reigniting that flame gets harder and harder.
I know that you are busy now, you have more than a relationship to worry about. You have little people with real needs that really rely on you! Sparking romance while being a parent is far from what you want to be focusing on. Can you even have children and still be in love?
The short answer is yes but this answer also comes with a but, you have to work on it, constantly!
Here's our 5 Tips to Spark Romance While Parenting
1. Secret Whispers
Your kids most definitely don't need to know everything and 99% of the time once they are hold enough to understand the first response they'll have is 'ew mum and dad' so some conversations are best had in whispering forms which also bring a element of fun and mystery. You should consider whispering positive words to your other half 'You look really good today, I like that outfit on you it is very attractive!'. It can be the little things that we sometimes need to hear to keep our relationship strong and lead to romance later.
2. Dinner date out the back at 7pm
The repetitiveness and mundane of doing the same thing every night can quickly lose a spark. You are probably so used to dinner at 5.30pm with the kids, battling them to eat their food and your conversation would be so minimal so how can you really connect? Change it up with a Thursday night dinner date out the back once the kids are in bed! Order take out or prepare your dinner earlier and then serve with a candle and outside for fresh air and new conversations!
3. Games Night
The modern date night might involve dinner and movies out but how about a games night, it could be something that involves a fun Q & A couples game or a competitive edge monopoly. You could even visit the bowling alley or a games arcade. Just because you're parents now doesn't mean you can't be fun. I know your free nights are limited but you won't regret changing up the 'regular date nights' for a games night - add drinks for an extra fun experience!
4. Mystery Date
You know your partner oh so well, but do you know their alter ego character? Switch it up and be anyone for the night and pretend its your first date just for fun! Get ready separately, ask them to 'pick you up' and watch your partner be wowed and immerse in a little fun as you change up the rules! This is best done on a scheduled kid-free night away - which you MUST schedule in once a month. I beg you!
5. Love Language
A lot of the romance tips stem back to something you can do but did you know this can be the simplest of things too that will improve romance? I suggest taking the love language quiz and your partner too and swapping results and reading about 'who you really are' when it comes to love. It will tell you a lot more than you think and help your partner to understand what you need to help you feel loved on a daily basis! It can be as simple as recognising you just want to be asked 'how was your day' or that you simply love a sweet genuine cuddle daily!
The romance doesn't need to be something you get back later on when your children grow up. Little by little, everyday every action you take can be an incredible difference! What is your top tip to sparking the romance while doing the everyday parenting duties?